How to Let Go of Emotional Pain

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By trade, a I am a Clinical hypnotherapist, stress management consultant
specializing in women’s wellness, and so
many call me as women’s wellness expert.
Today, I want to talk about something I prompted me to continue talking
because of a beautiful email, and, actually, it’s not an email. It was a.
message that I received on Facebook, and I want to start with that because
it says Dear Liza.
I love your Facebook Live last week where you talked about pain and how to
let go. What if it still continues daily and pains me to see it and feel it?
I am ashamed to let anyone see me like this, and I don’t let friends come
over. What can I do? My hands are tied. Can you help us? And it continues to
explain a little bit more about the situation. Hi, Satatan. How are you?
And I wanted to delve a deeper about
what is pain, not only physical pain,
but I, as a clinical hypnotherapist, one of the things we do is my
specialty is to listen for words,
gestures, the implications that is there,
and especially for an email like this,
that talks about it, pains her, and she
is ashamed, and she feels her hands
are tied. So those are all visualizations and feelings of pain instead of
the pain, physical pain itself.
So this possible client of mine
is talking about a situation that is
happening inside her home about
herself and what she is witness to.
So, just like the way I say accidents are not accidents, there is always a
cause and an effect. If you agree to let me know, just say yes, that there
is always a cause and effect, because even when there is an accident, auto
accident, there is always a cause and effect.
So someone made a turn, someone was drunk, someone made the wrong move, and
the effect is the other person did not see them, the other person, it was
not in their vision, the other person was going fast and they did not, we’re
not able to stop in time.
But one of the things that I help my clients is the pain factor. So the.
physical aspect of pain comes from our thoughts and then the feeling and
then the body reacts. Pain, physical pain is always there, knocking and
saying there is something wrong.
Or else we would not be paying attention to our body or anything else. Now,
what is the emotional aspect what we are talking about? So, there is a story
and I like to share about a story.
A teacher who asked her students to
each bring a sack and a sack of potatoes.
and he sat everyone down and sat. Now, here is something that you’re going
to carve the potatoes and for every painful experience that you’ve had, and
this is like high school students, not adults, because we experience that.
Because we experience pain so much more in our life than the kids do, right?
So, here is high school students and he says, I want you to take this potato
and carve out every painful experience
in your life and it couldn’t be being
humiliated, bullied, shame, loneliness, if you feel,
self lack of confidence if you have had any kind of regret in your life, if.
you’ve experienced betrayal or someone has hurt you either knowingly or
unknowingly, but you felt the hurt
and or even feel like someone has done
something wrong to
cause pain to you. And it could be
either a person’s name or an experience.
And you should put the name of this
person or experience inside the potato.
that you have not been able to forgive or let go of that experience and to
this day you have been holding on to that grudge.
And each student had to choose a potato, carve it and put it in the sack.
And the teacher said we’re going to do this for a while, not telling them
how many days it’s going to be, but he said every single day we’re going to
continue doing this.
And you’re going to carry the sack with you. When you’re in class, the sack
stays with you when you’re on the bus or in the car, the sack has to be with
you. When you go home, you’re going to carry the sack home and that sack is
going to be placed next to your bed at night.
And in the morning, you’re going to do all the things and you’re going to
bring that sack with you to class the next day.
So for the entire month, these students were required to always carry around
the potatoes and every single day. They had to carve one new potato and put
an experience and a name inside.
So I want you to realize at the end of the month, the hassle of logging the
sack of potatoes because by then there was a lot. It was more than some
students had to carve more than one potato a day because they had so much
grudge grief, sadness, low self esteem.
Someone had hurt them. They had been bullied or they were the bully or
whatever it was even regrets inside the sack. So can you imagine?
As an adult, we have more strength to carry that, but for a student, they
had to do this for a month.
So at the end of the month, they sat and they all had this bag of potatoes
and they looked and some of them were
huffing and puffing and they were
begrudging the teacher for an experience that they had to do this.
So this is what the teacher said.
Seems a high price to pay, to hold
on to people and experiences, even
emotions that were not a positive value in your life.
Because as you’ve been carving experiences
and names of the other people and.
you’ve been carrying it, they and
they out all through, they never felt it,
they never knew about it.
So it pains you to carry this load all
the time without them having any idea.
what you’ve been going through.
So when I talk about my 3e method,
which is evoking all this, everything
evoking all the ideas, thoughts, concepts, images, colors, everything, all
these experiences, even the names of the people who have been hurting you.
So the biggest pain factor in our life is shame and guilt.
So when this lady messaged me about
the shame and not allowing friends to
come in, in a way it says I ashamed of myself, I’m ashamed of my surrounding
I am ashamed.
So what that’s the cause and finding the cause of the shame.
Is it because the houses decluttered and you need to declutter it, are you
ashamed of yourself, your body, what?
And of course it’s not necessarily about her because this is my question to
you, to my audience or someone you may know.
If they feel shame of their experiences in their life, one person, a long
time ago, was a client of mine and to this day, felt shame of a procedure
that she had done and held onto that
experience of shame, thinking that if.
she had to reveal having an abortion,
some of her friends would look at her as how dare you.
Because she comes across as one of those, that this very religious and
everything, but she was placed in a situation that she had no recourse, no
other choice than to do this.
And she was young during her college years and this is 30 years prior, but
to that day, so she was struggling inside and when she revealed that through
her sections with me, it was tears flowing and for the, she said for the.
first time I’m talking about this and
this is one shame I’ve been holding on to.
Well, nobody knew, nobody really would care what she did during her college
years and it was her perception of what
other people would think and do or say.
So that pain, carrying that load,
carrying that sack of potato for over 30.
years and that’s what I’m calling.
It’s called a mental pain, an emotional
baggage that turns into pain and had.
been affecting her to this day.
So that is my question to you.
If you were to not necessarily do this exercise, but to sit and think and
ponder upon yourself.
What are the load of experiences
and people that I have not let go or not
forgiven myself for dragging it for
bringing it with me and hauling this weight?
Emotional weight, emotional weight, physical weight, a burden that has been
on my shoulder, on my body, on my psyche, on my energy, in my environment
that I’ve been holding on to.
They don’t know it.
They have absolutely no idea.
It’s on me, for me, and
what has been the gift.
And if you look at it today, how has this been helping you?
So when I’ve learned it takes more energy
to store pain than it does to face it.
And that’s why we invoke my 3E method, invoking it, so that you can
face it and embrace who you are today.
What is your lifestyle?
What is your body weight?
What is the struggles you are going through?
That perhaps you have not recognized or been aware of that sack of potato.
You’ve been carving it for a long time, and sometimes it’s been carving like
a begrudgement and just just hatred.
Still a potato, the potato does not feel it. It was you. And it was good
because it helped you do something about it.
And yet you’ve placed it in a sac, and
only you are the one who’s carrying it.
So it’s no wonder that so many feel
tired in pain, listless, restless, they.
can’t sleep well.
Pain travels throughout your body, and you can go to doctor after doctor
after doctor after doctor.
They can do all kinds of ink age,
they can do all kinds of testing, they can
do your blood test, they can do your heart test. They can
do stress test, and yes, it’s the stress of holding on.
So if you’re ready to
open the sac, empty it.
And when you empty it, believe it, you can do this at home.
You can write the names and experiences you’ve been holding on to.
You can just imagine the sac of potatoes and literally get a sac and think
of it all this.
Then you’ve been holding it to. And if you just empty it, let it go.
For you, feel yourself from the pain.
Feel yourself from the pain. Feel yourself from holding on.
And because so many have forgotten how to feel in peace, having that inner
peace, that vitality, joy,
the opposite of pain is gain, feeling great, feeling accepted, nourished,
and feeling independent, and peace inner peace.
So at night, other than all the
to-do list, you can just sleep and give
yourself to sleep with absolutely no shame, no guilt, none of that.
Hello, hi, oh my god, Maris is in the house. Hello, ganshiyam.
Hello, thank you for being here. Amazing
the power of weight and of old stories.
Yes, all stories that we hold on to.
So today, if this person who sent me
this message, I know you’re watching again.
I want you to know, if you are ashamed of
your body, you can do something about it.
If it is the house that you are holding,
that’s holding onto, you can begin.
I have someone who can help you declutter.
I can help you declutter. I’ve gone to people’s home and we’ve sat in there.
so that in the middle of everything, you come to feel what it is that you’re
holding onto.
And if you need to cry, we can cry. It’s okay.
So, I’ve walked around the block
with my clients during COVID.
I used to walk with one of my clients who was having panic and anxiety.
It’s like, if that’s what it takes, let’s do it, let’s walk.
In my old office, I had a client who had a fear
of getting into an elevator and claustrophobic.
She was okay everywhere else except an elevator.
So, understanding that she had a small little thing and experience that
happened to her when she was a little girl.
She was like a toddler and the elevator,
the doors were stuck or something
and her mom went into a panic.
And because of her mom going into a
panic, she had held onto that experience.
and every time she would go into an elevator, she would feel this her
reputation and panic.
But I did. We went, if you knew my office across the street from my office,
two blocks over was the Americana.
And we went, we walked around, we started laughing and watching the water
falls and everything in her said, “Let’s go and get into the elevator.”
She’s like, “I can’t.” And I said, “Yes, you can.”.
So, together we went to the elevator and as it was going up, she was having
an answer, I wanted to remember the waterfall, the joy that you had.
And standing here, you are safe.
So I had already given her the affirmations, worked with her a few times
before and instilled in her the into her subconscious that I am safe in an.
elevator.
And as the elevator went up, the doors opened and I could see her face. It’s
like, “Okay, I can handle this.” The doors closed.
And she looked at me and I said, “You can go higher.” And we went higher and
higher and higher all the way to the fourth floor.
And then the doors opened and I said, “You don’t have to get off. We can go
all the way down now.”.
And we did this twice and three times and walked out and back in, walked out
and back in. And I said, “Now I stay here and you go up and down.”
You see, by doing this and for her to know I am good, I am safe by myself
and with others and the elevators that
will always open and close, open and close.
There was no more bag of potatoes
that fear that experience of the past,
that pain her, and gave her that feeling
of, “I can’t.” The pain in her chest, that
emotional pain was gone. The fear was gone.
And now she had all the stability, the strength, the confidence and the
inner knowing that I am safe.
And I can. I am safe. I can’t.
So, today’s message
for you is holding on
is the heaviest bag
of breads and weight.
And I urge you, talk to someone, do this exercise on your own, or you may
always know that you are free to call me.
Message me. If you have any questions, if you have any messages, if there is
anything I can be of an assistant to you by all means, I am here for you.
Sometimes we don’t have to be hypnotized to make a change.
And if you close your eyes for just a moment, just for a moment, go ahead,
close your eyes.
Pick a nice deep breath and exhale.
One more time, nice deep breath in.
And exhale. And one last time as
you breathe in, bringing oxygen and
vitality into your body, you hold, and you say thank you.
Being grateful to all the potatoes
in your sack, to every experience, to
every single person who has been a
part of your life, from the time that you.
were a toddler, your caregivers, your
mentors, your teachers, your family
members, friends, colleagues,
and to this very moment. Because for
a good or bad, they made an impact in.
your life. And today, just for today,
you can take all that and put it in.
the palm of your hand, and look at it.
And like a dry row, mmm, mmm, and
feel the vibration of everything in the.
palm of your hand, and you say,
[Sighs].
Bye-bye. Good, bad, right, wrong. It doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter.
Because today, you can shake it off, you can release it, you can let it go,
and you can play.
The little girl’s world that I grew up.
[Singing in foreign language]
Now, do I remember what the words,
the meaning of that words are? No.
That was when I was in kindergarten, and I remember every one of us doing
that, and it made us laugh, it made us
smile, and it moved our body, and we
looked and clapped and had a great time.
How did I remember it? I have no idea, but the moment I released it, maybe.
subconsciously, I had to release something from my preschool years. And if
it was, thank you.
Because your subconscious mind will remind you of the things you need to do.
So embrace it, and be grateful, because it’s time for you to evolve.
You do matter. My name is Liza Boubari,
and I am your expert hypnotherapist
and women’s wellness.
So for today, be grateful to your
life, and as I am to you. If you believe
this message was informational and inspirational, by all means would you
please share, and I look forward to seeing you next week.
Until then, God
bless, and may the
Universal Light
surround you. Bye-bye.