The Power of Hugs

Welcome to Heal Talk Tuesday with Liza, where
transformation begins as we evoke, embrace, and evolve.
Greetings Greetings Greetings Greetings and
welcome to Heal Talk Tuesday. It’s Liza.
It’s so good to be here with you, isn’t it?
Today, I’m going to be talking about something that it’s very much in the open.
We do it all the time, and it’s called the power of hug and the importance of touch.
So today is National Hug Day, a perfect opportunity, especially with the holidays,
to talk about the beauty and the
importance, and yet the complexity of touch.
And how we connect touch to our five senses and how it is comfortable or not.
So, a lot of what we just started was there are few types of hugs.
One of them is called the tap tug. It’s tap on the back.
We hug just by doing this.
And that’s often quick and a friendly gesture, right?
And the next one is a side hug. Those are like when we feel
uncomfortable or we don’t know the person, and it’s just like,
so a cordial casual sign of, hello, greetings.
And then there is the full hug, which that’s the way I usually hug.
It’s called deep heartfelt and comforting hug.
So, while a good hug is very much beneficial, it can also be hands off.
It can feel warm, like a blanket and comforting, and
not everybody appreciates, or does a full body hug.
So, why? Allow me to say, I would like to share,
there is good touch, and there is bad touch.
So, the touch, one of our five senses is so powerful from the time that we are babies.
We are blanketed with touch and comfort and consoling, right?
And it can feel, it can comfort, and it’s very loving.
And yet, it can also create discomfort for some people and need boundaries to set.
So, I’ll give you a quick testimonial client of mine came to me
because a few months ago, she had gone to physical therapist.
And while they’re doing PT because of an injury, the physical therapist expands,
extends her thigh and touches her thigh very professional and caring way.
And to stretch her thigh and at that very
moment, because of muscle memory, it just taps
something into the subconscious that she
starts shaking and then goes into an anxiety.
Without understanding what is going on.
That in itself is because it triggered
something from a long time ago that she didn’t
know, she thought it was already taking care
of that it didn’t even dawn on her, right?
So, she comes to me for panic and anxiety, not understanding what’s happening.
True are healing work and everything, she understands that
the trauma she suffered a long time ago during her marriage,
it triggered her that she’s probably been touched many,
many times except at that very moment something triggered.
So when we are talking about this, some people thrive on
physical connection and they enjoy massages, they enjoy embraces.
And there’s those who cringe at the thought of being touched or even getting a massage.
And it’s like reflecting their need for an emotional connection and physical safety.
So, how do you, my question to you, is how do
you feel? Do you have full-on hugs? Do you give
hugs? Do you receive hugs? Are you comfortable
with your body? Because it all comes down to you.
It’s never about another person. Never. It’s about
your own inner confidence, your own boundaries,
your own body and everything that has happened,
all your experience is in your life, okay?
I’m not saying I’m perfect and why I do full hugs
and everything, but I’ve had my share of traumas,
my body has gone through a lot. Even when I was
doing massages, I was always very cordial and caring,
even starting the massage, even though a client is
coming in just last night, we were talking
about touch with a massage therapist and how to
honor a body, not to have alcohol before
you go to the hospital. Because when you
get a massage, as the massage therapist is
pumping, the blood flow going towards the heart, if there is a
lot of toxins or alcohol or drug, it can hit the heart and that
there can be an anxiety or it can even hurt of a heart attack.
So understanding touch when it’s a good touch and when it’s not. Because healing
within is truly healing that deep-rooted
subconscious level pain and hurt and trauma.
So the role of touch in childhood as babies and children touch is so
vital for our development, for the children’s development, the care, the
bundling, the consoling and when they are crying, when they are in
need, we pick them up, we love them, we touch them, we kiss them, right?
It establishes a sense of connection and belonging. That’s why
when we love, when we are partner, we just want to be hugged.
Even spooning in bed is one of the most beautiful
ways of sensuality without the sex part of it, right?
So from a parent’s hug to a gentle pat on the back,
these moments teach us a sense of love and safety.
So but when a trust is broken, here’s the thing,
when a trust is broken or trauma occurs either
knowingly or unknowingly, memory of unsafe touch from
childhood or even adulthood, it stays in the body.
So when I do the workshops called “Listen to your body talk” is truly allowing
yourself to acknowledge and if there is pain,
if there is hurt, if there is discomfort,
if there is unease in your body, we bring it lovingly and gently to surface in order
for you, what we call evoking, in order for you to embrace so that you can heal.
You can find that inner safety within your body, in order for
you to move forward in your life safely and comfortably, right?
So yes, the Boubari method is exactly this, finding that essential healing from within.
Why? Because one, to protect yourself, number two, create boundaries
which are safe and loving and that can help you flourish in life.
So healing within is through hypnosis, some
hypnotherapy which is a key role in rebuilding those
senses of safety within yourself is quite powerful
because it helps you reframe the past experiences.
First, you have to evoke it in order for us to edit it so that’s editing,
reframing the past experiences to release the fear and discomfort.
Second thing we do is build that inner confidence as I say, creating
that sense of emotional and physical safety within yourself.
I know I say everything is my body and emotions, that’s
exactly what it is, just like muscle has memory from
an accident, from a shock and some people are uncomfortable
to sit behind the wheel again and that’s all it is.
So shifting that muscle memory from tension to relaxation
and making touch more comfortable and welcomed.
If you are ready for it. So when you heal from
within and hugs transform into one of the most
loving, caring gestures, you realize it becomes a
way for you to express, care, love and connection.
I would love for you to share what is a good touch, what is a bad touch for you.
If you have experience such a thing, if you have felt a discomfort when touched and it
could have been not what intention of hurting
but unintentional, just even tapping someone.
I remember a long time ago when I was in a toxic
relationship, I was in the kitchen and this
person who I was in a relationship came right
behind me and it was like the body reacted.
I didn’t know if it’s going to be the loving touch at that
moment or was that going to be expecting something else.
So my entire body cringed while I was at the dishwasher, I mean washing the dishes.
And this is what I’m saying, of course I have
healed. That was like what, 25 years ago.
I have healed so much that right now, of course when I talked to my
clients, when I work with my clients, it’s always with a permission.
Everything is about consent and permission and I want you to know this.
So healing is not only for others how they
come to you, how they come, how close they come
because some people have no boundaries, especially
children, they have literally no boundaries.
And then they come straight into your face and they
want to talk to you, which is loving and caring.
And yet, trigger happens only at that one moment,
just like my client at her physical therapy.
So today, National Hug Day, I encourage you to honor your own boundaries and
while you’re also opening your heart to connect, to love, to care and to share.
So whether you’re giving a full-on bare hug or
a tap on their back and shoulder or even a self
hug, because there is nothing more important
than you hugging yourself and saying thank you.
Thank you to your body, thank you to you. You’re just like, I got you.
I’m okay, I’m safe right here with me. You are safe with me, I am safe with you.
And if you see these words, I am safe. I am safe in my body. I am safe right here.
I am safe emotionally, physically, mentally. I am safe, no matter where I am.
And you can even name the places where you want to feel safe and you
need to feel safe, because it is your own a boundary and come to touch.
Actually, touch your head, your eyes, your face, your chest, your
breasts, your tummy, thank you. Touch your hips, your thighs.
Yes, even your feet massage your own feet,
because the bottom of your feet are what your
entire body, every organ, every tissue, every
essence of you is at the bottom of your feet.
That’s why you feel so good when you massage the
bottom of your feet or the palm of your hands.
And if you’re someone who feels uncomfortable with that touch,
oh my God, I want you to know that healing is so possible.
That’s where I come in. My all means, please get in touch with me.
Allow me to guide you, help you, yes, with the Boubari method, but to help
you through hypnotherapy, through evoking, so that you can shed it to it.
You can release the toxins that pain, that hurt, that trauma. That’s not
the way to live, so that you can create that safe space within yourself.
And remember, a hug isn’t just a physical gesture.
It’s a heartfelt connection, love, and care.
Heal within is where transformation begins. And thank you for tuning in to this
week’s Heal Talk Tuesday, and until next
time, and next week, I wish you all the best.
So may God bless you and the universal light surround you. Hug you. Always.
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