Resolutions vs Intensions

Greetings, greetings, greetings, greetings, and no welcome to Heal Talk Tuesday.
This is Liza.
It’s so good to be here with you, isn’t it?
Wow, I hope no matter where you are, no matter who you are with, either who you are
with family, friends, or by yourself, celebrating, you are celebrating you.
You are celebrating this season of love, grace, joy.
Oh, you know, togetherness, and not everybody is together.
So we’re going to be talking about all of that.
Are you with me today?
Well, you know, I was listening to one of my
gurus that I often when I go on a walk and I’m listening.
And he was talking about Sadhguru, who was talking about this, why is it that we are
celebrating and bringing joy and wishing
everyone a Merry Christmas and a joyful day.
And we are so much joyful during this time, especially today.
And he said, aren’t we supposed to be this, the rest of the year?
Why only this one day or this week?
So that’s what I want to talk about.
As we step into this final days of the year,
there’s a natural pull for us to reflect on what was.
And what is to be, as you know, everything I do is evoke embrace evolve.
But evoking what was this entire year, how is
it for you was a difficult, was a challenging,
so many of my clients and friends said, you know, actually I
had a client who said the most challenging year was this year.
And she believes that even numbers for her
are very challenging, odd numbers are not, if
you believe in that, if that is something
that you believe that it becomes reality for you.
So let’s pause for a moment.
I want you to pause for a moment and take a
nice deep breath, maybe even close your eyes.
And just embrace where you are right now, no
matter where you are, sitting in a car, in
your room, in your office, as I am, and just for this very moment.
If you could wish one thing for you, what would it be?
What is it that you want for the next year, for the
next month, next week, next day, which is tomorrow?
What do you want for the next hour?
What do you want for you?
And if you just think about that, it’s like,
well, I have been so busy stressing them
what to get, what not to get, stressing what
to do, that you are on this hamster will, when
sometimes I talk about it, I want you to
take a moment just for this moment and think
about you, because as you pause, we’re going
to be talking about intentions instead of resolutions for the year, right?
Because resolutions feel as if it’s something
that there’s a pressure for the next year,
some say, where are you going for the New Year’s Eve?
It’s like, where are you going?
How are you celebrating the expectations that we place upon ourselves?
Do you have to celebrate it with friends?
Are you going out?
Do you have a new dress?
Did you get new shoes?
Did you get your presence?
Or if you’re celebrating it at home with family,
have you started the cooking, the presence, the tree?
Right?
When I think about the holidays, for me, the
holidays are like this morning, I woke up and I don’t go for the phone.
What I do is truly close my eyes and start with a prayer.
I connect with God.
I do my prayer and then I think that I opened
my eyes and I think my family, my household
first and then my family and I wish God’s
grace and blessings upon all and then I get up.
So I think resolutions are like a pressure, a list of the things that we should do.
But the intentions are what we intend.
We set an intention with alignment, what truly matters.
So what matters to you?
I know health thus, family does, friends do.
What matters is moving forward with grace and clarity.
So I journal, I’ve been asked to journal and
say, what is it that I want for the next year?
How do I want my business to flourish?
Sometimes I can’t even envision that.
Sometimes I feel stuck.
I do too.
And if you have felt stuck and that’s okay.
Because you know, not everything in life is a
clarity, not everything in life is perfection.
Let’s be honest, how many resolutions in life have we kept after February?
A lot of them say, I’m going to exercise.
Hey, last year I signed up at a gym I have not gone to the gym once.
Actually, I signed up for someone I care for so she can use it with her kid.
And that was the intention.
I knew the intention was not for me to go to the gym.
I don’t.
I’m not a gym person.
But I am starting my Pilates.
I like doing things that are singular versus being in a place that is jam-packed.
So knowing yourself and understanding the intention behind it.
So there’s no judgment because resolutions are like a glitter.
It looks like great in the moment, but it fades away.
It’s just that I sing on the cake.
It is not the cake.
So when we think about intention, I want you
to take a moment and say my intentions for the year.
And if you come up with the word, grace and
clarity are mine, come up with the word that moves you forward in life.
And instead of saying, I’ll work for five days a week or I’m going to go to the gym
five days a week, set an intention that I want.
This is mine.
You can do yours.
I intend to strengthen my muscles and for my bone density because I’m at an age that
my muscles and my alignment is more important to me than having this buff body.
So instead of putting pressure, what we do is
it stops the procrastination and now I have
set an intention that it feels good for me.
You know, this holiday season, everybody knows I’ve got to put in my drawer.
I’ve got to talk about in my drawer.
I’ve got to talk about in my drawer.
This is from Trader Joe’s, someone gave me a present from C’s.
And that’s another thing.
Sitting in tension and knowing that I have the
chalk bits, but I don’t have to have it all. I eat a piece of it.
So the exercise that you do for yourself, I
want you to think about one word or a feeling
that you want to carry into the new year.
That’s it. Is it abundance?
Is it peace? Is it clarity?
I know the pressure that some of my family members are going through.
Some of my friends are going through.
Some of my colleagues and clients are going
through, which is the expectations of showing
up to family gatherings or the expectations of where are we gathering.
And you know, sometimes families grow and everyone becomes circular.
They want to spend it with their family and that’s okay.
So we don’t have to think that we are being this, but things evolve.
And there is a client of mine that sisters are in a good relationship and they’re not
in talking relationship at all and has created the split in the family.
So they decided I’m going to come to you for
Christmas Eve and then go to my brother Christmas
day.
And then the other sister is going to go to the brother’s house on Christmas Eve and
so the two sisters don’t have to see one another.
I know it creates a challenging situation at
families, but if you can find a way, do so.
And sometimes it’s not easy to find the way.
So all these stress, I call them emotional stressors because it creates something that
more people start suiting themselves, either
with alcohol, with food, with chocolate, whatever it is.
So that creates this, I know instead of
resenting and talking about it, you stuff it in.
And I want you to be cognizant of that.
So stop stuffing it in, express it, share it
with a family member, share it with a friend or just journal.
Take time, just as I said, take a nice deep breath.
Valorating what you’re feeling.
If it is resentment, if it is anger, if it is
feeling that you’ve been this, if it is feeling
sad, if it is feeling whatever, if you have lost someone during
the holidays and you miss them, write it, share it, express it.
I know the holidays are time for closure and
celebrations and whatever it is that you’re
feeling nostalgic, loving, write it and share it.
So it’s all about caring, just love and appreciation
of self and knowing that no matter where you are, there is a reason you are here.
There is a reason where you are exactly where you are and the lessons are profound.
And by all means if I can be of help, let me know, I am here for you.
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You know, in closing I can say I celebrate Christmas.
I grew up, I was christened as Catholic and
when you come to my office, you see the statue
of the Buddha, you see the cross, you see
Kuanian, you see everything in here because to
me it’s not about the religion, it is about
the celebration that we do and what we believe
in because no matter what you believe in is what becomes reality for you.
You can believe in this glass of water and when you drink it, you can say this was the
best thing I did.
So, you choose for you because when you go
too bad, even when you sleep with someone, you
sleeping for you, you are wrestling your body.
Every nerve and every muscle, every organ,
every tissue inside your body is going through the healing.
When you nurture and nourish yourself and your
body, you are doing the yours and the same way goes when you lift up your spirit and
remembering as I remember the loved ones that
are in heaven right now watching over me and that’s how I take things.
I remember them every day, I celebrate and
miss them every day so that I know I have been
part of generations.
My family members, the ones that I come from
and since I have no one that I pass the torch
as a family of child of my own, I know that I have made impact in the lives of many.
So that’s who we are.
We are spiritual beings in this body.
Tonight’s again, I celebrate it with three of my best friends.
One best friend, I have known since I was
six years old, our family members knew us and we have known each other.
One, I have known since first grade that she
to this day, she is my best friend and the other one since high school.
And we will remember the things we did as kids in high school, in college, through
the years we have come together, we have
changed lives, husbands, divorces, families,
kids, we have been witness to each other’s lives.
And it’s so beautiful that we come together
again every month to celebrate what, friendship,
to celebrate life, because that’s what we celebrate.
And may your celebration of yourself, your loved
ones, your friends and family be as beautiful.
Because life is not always beautiful.
We have ailments, we have sadness, we have challenges and older we get.
We also think about our elders, our families, if they are there.
And we even make sure out of it.
So in closing, I want you to invite to let go of the pressures of the day.
I just say, I just remembered a friend of
mine from long time ago, and I was working at
a company and he was from me, and he would say, “Jivet, that means I don’t go.
Just release it and drop it.”
So let it go.
Make humor part of your life no matter when it is.
So focus on the feelings that are quite meaningful to you.
And that brings you fulfillment, brings you joy, that brings peace within you.
And that’s how we heal.
So thank you for being with me this entire year or throughout the years, six years.
By the end of the summer, it will be six years.
And I invite you to share with a friend.
You have my share, I give me a great emoji, send me a message.
Thank you for all the private messages, the emails, the calls.
And if you can go to my YouTube and subscribe, I would appreciate it so much.
That would be my gift that I receive from you.
And I will be here next Tuesday, so we can ring the bell for the new year.
I might even have a bell.
I always have a bell.
I always have my angels.
And yes, I surround myself with the things that make me feel good.
And may this Christmas and holidays bring
you and you surround yourself with the things that make you feel good.
OK. So until next week, we’ll bring the new year together and ringing the bell.
And until then, stand underneath a mistletoe.
And God bless you.
May the universe light surround you always.
Bye bye.
OK, let’s finish this.
Thank you. Bye bye.
I love you too.