Are You Afraid of Change?

Welcome to Heal Talk Tuesdays with Liza, where transformation begins as we evoke, embrace, and evolve. Greetings Greetings Greetings Greetings and welcome to Heal Talk Tuesdays with Liza. It’s so good to be here with you, isn’t it? I hope you are having an amazing day. Today is No-Rooze, the Persian New Year that marks the beginning of spring and it is celebrated by millions of people around the world as a time of renewal, rejuvenation, and new beginnings. It’s a time for families that come together, exchanging visits, sharing meals just like our New Year in many other countries, and engaging traditions that symbolize the rebirth of nature and the start of a New Year. So everyone has got traditions, everyone has got their own rituals, so from cleaning home, which is Hanatekuni, and setting up half-scene, which is the Seven, Seasonings, Seven, Symbolizing, Renewal of a New Year from our Sunbald, which is the Flower of Renewal, from the Golden Fish, and Seap, which is Apple, the beginning of life, Seake, which is the symbol of prosperity and money, and of course the Gauran and the half-scene itself. So everything there is seasonings and everything that we do symbolizing a beautiful celebration that embodies hope, optimism, and the promise of a fresh start. So I hope you celebrate not only no truth, not only this beginning of spring and renewal, you know, we talk about moving forward in life, and how do we move forward in life. It’s always about peeling away, shedding, and letting things go in order for you to come to an evolving. As the work that I do as a clinical health therapist, working with my clients, it’s always about that, because when they come to me, it’s wanting the change, it’s more than wanting the change, is a need for each age. So many of us are afraid of change, right? So what exactly is change? That there is a factor, not only psychological, but social aspect of change, that so many dread change, and changes everywhere. The seasons change, we change clothes every day, we change hairstyles every day, we change home, we change our habits and behaviors and everything. Why? Because, why? And we want something new and refreshed, right? And we want to blossom into a new way of being, because no matter what it is, when you come to me for hypnotherapy, stress management, or any kind of a coaching, it’s because you are in a position that you want something better. Not necessarily good or bad, something better, healthier. In a better way to not only evoke, come to embrace, so that you can evolve to a healthier way of lifestyle. So, why is it so hard for change to happen? Because I believe change is that fear of the unknown when we say, are you ready for transformation? You know? So many people in development industry, self-help industry, or any kind of a therapy, they hesitate. And you may feel the same. I don’t know, are you open to change, or do you hesitate, or dread change? Change that factor of the unknown is stepping into that place of not knowing, evoking feelings of uncertainty, and perhaps even fear. Because as human beings, we have this natural inclination towards familiarity, and things that are predictable, and when you can’t see around the corner, when you don’t know, that factor in itself creates hesitation. And yet, you are hungry for that transformation, for that change, to move towards that part. So a lot of, I’ve had people ask me, will I lose control when I am hypnotized? That loss of control also is something that it’s like change can disrupt your self-help. It’s not just that you have to disrupt your sense of control over your life, or when it’s during the session. And when things change, you may feel like you have less influence, or authority over what you already had. And that change may be like uncertain, create more uncertain thing, because change is also coming out of your comfort zone, right? People tend to develop this comfort zone, and being in that comfort zone, no matter if it is painting you, at least you know what the pain is. As a domestic abuse consultant, one of the things that is hard to change is, I know what I expect, I know what’s coming, and I can deal with this. But if I rocked a boat, I don’t know what’s going to happen. The ramifications might be something that I am unfamiliar, but as long as I am here, I can deal with this until you no longer can. See, because when the pain gets so bad, it’s time to do something about it. And it can be either in that kind of a negative domestic abuse of relationship. It can be a self-abusive relationship when people who go into self-destructive habits, cutting, or any other self-destructive habits. It’s in a way that paints them, and yet they know how to paint, that in itself, if you or someone you know is doing this, then what it is, there’s underlying subconscious need to feel. And to feel either pain or love at that moment, it’s a pure focused attention for what it is being felt. So, developing this sense of urgency, that’s why when people come to hypnotherapy, is because of a need, not so much of the want. It’s coming out of your comfort zone. And that’s a change that is much needed and feared. Another one is this facing the change, that challenges the existing beliefs, values, and assumptions of that, because everything that I do is either with weight or smoking and everything is that emotional connection to the habit, to the behavior. So, in a way, it’s becoming emotionally detached from what you have been attached to. Let me say that again. It’s that emotional detachment from attaching to a behavior or a habit that you have created within yourself for a good reason, and you feel comfortable. And if this resonates with you, by all means that you can say yes, you can raise your hand and realize that when it gets to that point, that is hurting you more, that it is giving you the pleasure or the reward, it is time for you to make that change. It’s like change is such a natural thing. Flowers open, because it is time to open. Flowers never fear someone is going to come and stomp on them. Flowers never fear even plants or even grass that grows, never things that, oh my god, someone is going to come and mow me a week from now. They just grow. Because the plants, the seeds have been planted, the fertilizer has been there, the sun is shining, and it’s the natural way for the grass to grow, right? And that’s exactly who you are, who we are as humans. A child never thinks twice of giggling when they are happy. Or crying when they are in need, in hungry, or discomfort. It’s when we become putting, when we start putting those judgments and analyzing, criticizing, reasoning, parts of it as adults. That’s when we change things and want to modify it to fit in to our expectations. So that emotional connection, change can disrupt that attachment which leads to feeling of loss or grief. But what is it that you’re grieving? Are you grieving that extra weight that you are holding onto? Are you grieving that two packs of cigarettes? What would happen if you let it go? Are you grieving the pain that you are going through? And if you are, realize that when you let it go, that when you come through the chrysalis from that discomfort, you will charge yourself from that emotional connection to where it was. Do that behavior or have it? You will blossom. Another one is that change truly often involves that uncertainty, taking that risk. And it is we as humans take that risk every single day. We do. Let me say this. I don’t know why we have the volume so high. But despite all this, we take risks, we make changes, we want to blossom, and I know you do too. So change is an inherent part of our life, and it is essential for you to adapt and grow and truly progress. What is it that they say? It’s the wake of a boat going upstream. It’s never backwards because the wake is behind us and the boat is always the motorboat. So change is a good way to get the energy of everything moves forward and so do we. So learning to embrace change and renewal and rather than resist it leads to your own personal development and resilience. It’s more beautiful than I say. There is nothing better than nothing trumps than self-pride. When you are proud of yourself. One of my clients, I adore, came to me for wanting to drop weight. So we worked on that. We worked on peeling away so many layers and through that, realizing that being a corporate world for so many years and wanting not to deal with what’s happening at home. So she packed on a lot of things that she didn’t want to deal with. I don’t want to change. I don’t want to rock the boat. What’s happening inside the house. The house was full of clutter and everything. So as she started decluttering her home, decluttering her bedroom, decluttering the way she thinks. And now that she is retired, that’s the word. I don’t know why I couldn’t come up with the word. Now that she is retired, she is taking care of herself, tending to herself, being kinder to her. And embracing the change. And in less than four months she has dropped approximately 18 pounds. And that’s significant. You know why? It’s not so much about the weight, the heaviness, but what she was carrying. And she was carrying a lot of secrets that in the past you do want to change or rock the boat. But now she can’t wait to start living instead of existing. Again, if this resonates with you by all means, you can say yes, you can show me by an emoji and share with me. What part of today about change, about being inspired, about wanting to step forward in life and embracing everything, not only springing forward in life, but celebrating you. Are you ready to do? With that, I want to say thank you for being a part of heel-talk Tuesdays, because I too am making a change. And we’ll be springing forward with a whole new different. I’ve been doing this heel-talk Tuesdays for approximately seven years and come April will be celebrating seven years. And it’s time for a change. So stay tuned and you will know more. Until then, Happy Nourus, Moveda, Rachworship and Hammé Giyyichu Mung. Tama mame fermilo, Badustoye, Kimandaram. Khudohafiz. And God bless you. I made a universal light surround you always. Bye bye.