Friendsgiving vs. Thanksgiving

Greetings, Greetings, Greetings, and welcome to Heal Talk Tuesdays.
This is Liza.
Oh my God, what an amazing time it is just being here, being alive.
No matter where you are, I hope you are having a healthy and amazing time.
Yes, so with the holidays approaching, I want us to dive into what is coming.
I know it’s one of my favorite holidays because I look forward to Thanksgiving.
And yeah, it’s so timely because it’s deeply
meaningful, and I want to talk about Friendsgiving versus Thanksgiving and the powerful
role of gratitude that plays in our lives.
Gratitude, I like to call it, I live with
thankfulness and being grateful to a lot of things.
That are in my life.
So it creates this beautiful positive thing because Thanksgiving is about tradition.
It’s about gathering with family, reflecting on the blessings that we have.
And on the other hand, Friendsgiving is the modern
twist to gathering and coming to a table, sharing food.
It’s a chance to connect with the people that you choose versus family, right?
The people that you want to be around and that you don’t have
to be around in a more relaxed, less traditional setting.
And both are beautiful and there are both
opportunities to connect with your loved ones.
And I know there are so many who do not have a family or are away from family.
And this is the best time that they do come together to
celebrate and give thanks, but they do it with their friends.
So today we’re going to explore this unique
power that each one brings to the table, right?
Hi, sweetie.
So Thanksgiving helps us to honor what tradition and family.
We may not always respect certain people in our family.
We may not honor them, but this tradition of
coming together and breaking bread is home to me.
Okay. Now, Friendsgiving, it emphasizes the importance
of the relationships and the people we choose to be with.
And it’s a whole different ritual than you gather.
I know I was told that there is this person who started a new trend of giving presents
at Thanksgiving saying, “I am grateful and I am presenting you with a present.”
So instead of doing it at Christmas, they do
this present and give thanks to Thanksgiving.
So it can be just about anything that you wanted to make.
So here’s my question. Do you gather with friends
and family or do you gather as a Friendsgiving?
Because gratitude is a game changer.
Yesterday I was on a podcast and I was being interviewed and he asked
one of the questions, “Was do you believe in God and traditions?”.
I think traditions are absolutely wonderful.
And how often do we keep up with traditions and whose traditions?
If it is something that has been centuries, then it’s part of a tradition that family
tradition can be something different that the
family chooses to do things differently, right?
So gratitude isn’t just polite and the answer, let me backtrack and say,
“God, I believe God is everywhere. We are part of God. God is a creator.”
So we each have our own perception and give meaning to
what is God to us and yet I think God is the biggest thing.
And then there’s the religions that dictate how you worship or do things
and everyone has the right to say what it is that they believe it.
There is no one in here to instill that. But I
like the tradition of Thanksgiving and gratitude.
So I would love for you to share what you do for the holidays,
so what you do for Thanksgiving because it can be stressful.
It can be creating anxiety, especially for Christmas. And it can
be absolutely wonderful and something that you look forward to.
So, by the way, I’m going to give one of our books
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where we are and how we’re making an impact in the
lives of others, all with love, grace and courage.
So, let’s get back to why gratitude is a game changer because
gratitude is just, it’s not only being polite, it is transformational.
It studies show that how it improves your life. In my interview,
I said, how I do gratitude is each night before I sleep.
I do a small little prayer, it’s not a big prayer. And then I give
thanks for my family. I give thanks for my mind, my sound mind, my body.
And I give thanks for all the things that I accomplished on that day. So, it comes to
mental health, wellness, physical health,
strengths in relationships and things like that.
And relationships and the people that we surround ourselves with. And
it also helps us sleep better, especially when we do it at night, right?
And I’ll share some tools to bring gratitude
in your day and how you can do this.
So, practicing this technique of gratitude, you
start with either say it verbally or you write it.
And it’s so easy that every night you put this small and old book next
to you. And you just write three things you are grateful to. That’s it.
Each day, you draw down three things. And then you
create this gratitude jar if you want to. And you
ask the people who you are with that every single
day, they can write something on a small little note.
And you put it in that gratitude jar. At the
end of the week, on a Sunday or when you’re
having a dinner, you just bring that jar and
say, let’s pull something and see what is it.
So, instead of going to a Chinese restaurant and looking forward to
the fortune cookies, I collect them, especially when they are good.
Like this one said, you have the attitude of the winner. I do. And when I don’t
have it, I do pick this up and it reminds me. I liked it so much. I kept it.
So, small little things like this. And you will be showered with good fortune.
It keeps it keeps not only gratitude, but it keeps as it puts a smile on my face.
It puts a smile and it just, it’s a reminder. What
resonates with me, what resonates with you. So, anytime you
put something that is wonderful that the reader picks it
up and it’s good for them as much as it was good for you.
It’s a gesture of gratitude. It’s a gesture of
love, care and kindness. When we share that,
it is so powerful. So, this mindful appreciation
you take truly and you savored this moment.
And understanding, I don’t know where you are in life. By all
means, please share, share your thoughts. Share when is it that
you are grateful to. I would love to hear your thoughts and
suggestions because a few days ago something happened in my life.
And actually, it was ten days ago, I fell. I
fell and I hurt myself. But at that moment, I was
with mom and mom got scared and I rolled over
in order for me not to hit my head to the floor.
And that I got up, I dusted myself off and because I knew she
was scared, limping, I started walking and I said, I’m good.
Few days later, I’ve got all kinds of black and blue on
my thigh and all that. But the gratefulness comes here.
You see, when I looked, there was two people who literally saw me fall but
no one came forward. And that’s okay because nowadays it’s like this thing
about being scared. I am grateful for one person, particularly, I know you
are watching. I know you will be watching or hearing and listening to this.
That she said, if you put a sock and put rice
in it and roll it up, put it in a microwave
and you put it in their heat pad instead of because at that moment I didn’t have a heat
pad. And she said, if you do that somewhere
when you don’t have a heat pad or an ice pack
because I iced it, it will pull away that
strain and heat it because rice keeps the heat.
And to me, I am truly, truly grateful for tools,
tips, techniques that can help us feel better. You
know, it’s a gesture of kindness, it’s a gesture
of love, it’s a gesture either in words or indeed.
So, and what better way to celebrate friendship or tradition
but to come together and say, I drink to your health. I am
grateful that you are in my life. I am grateful to my assistant
Adrienne that no matter what we have each other’s back.
And I know, it’s absolutely wonderful. I am grateful to the 17 ladies who
joined me to be part of this book, The Powerful She. Again, the first three
people who typed The Powerful She on 818, 221, 2797. Yes, you pay for the
shipping but you get a book and it’s a wonderful book stories of 17, 18 women.
And who truly are now making impact in the lives of others. That’s giving,
that’s gifting, that is sharing. So, holidays can also be very nostalgic.
And can we are missing the people who mean so much to us that
may not be around the table, either they’re in heaven or they’re
in another state. Or for whatever reason, you’re not on talking
terms at this moment. Anything can be happening at this moment.
And I know it is happening everywhere. So, there’s separations
in mind, separations of in thought process, it’s a separation.
But that separation does not mean that you separate from
yourself at this very moment, even being grateful to
your own life, everything that you have accomplished,
everything that you have done self pride starts with you.
When healing starts with you, that’s why the name of my business is heal
within. And when my clients come, when I ask them, what do you want?
Not all the things of who did or what they said, this is what they
did. Stop. Pause. What do you want? Bottom line, we want inner peace.
We want kindness. We want understanding. We want love. We
want Serenity. No matter where we are. So, wrapping up, I
want you to know, what’s one thing that you’re grateful for
in this time, and how do you plan to show it and share it.
I’m sharing it with a gift. I’m sharing it by being with
my family. I’m sharing it by being grateful to each one.
So, this free gratitude gift that I am giving is my way of
sharing. And on December 2nd, I’m doing an open house at my
office. If you are anywhere near the LA area by all means, you
are invited to my open house and you will see it at a link.
You will see it on my website in the events part. So, you are invited to come and
share the spirits. A little bit of a good food and saying, I am grateful to you.
So, let us make this season about more than food, more than drinks, more than
pointing fingers and making it into heartfelt
connections and genuine gratefulness.
So as always, I thank you for showing up. I thank you for your thoughts and ideas.
Next Tuesday, we will celebrate Thanksgiving
together. You never know what I will
have on my table or where I will be giving thanks. So, stay tuned. I might even
surprise you be somewhere that it’s
absolutely different than my normal setting.
So, until then, I am grateful to you and everything that I can help you with to
feel better and to heal with it. My name is Liza. I’m your expert hypnotherapist.
I am here to say, appreciate and accept yourself far more deeply than ever before.
And until next week, God bless you and may the universal light surround you always.
Bye.