How to Focus to Get What You Want

Welcome to Heal Talk Tuesdays with Liza. Where transformation begins as we evoke embrace. Evolve. Greetings greetings greetings and welcome to Heal Talk Tuesdays with Liza. It’s so good to be here with you isn’t it. Well I hope you are having an amazing moments. An hour and a day. Today is a Heal Talk Tuesday is going to be. About concentration and focus. As I am speaking to you I wonder where your and what you were doing. And. How focused you are on what is going to be happening in the next moment. Because today I’m going to be talking about how we shift. Our focus and how. When you believe yourself to be in a funk or when you feel like there is a boy blog or there is an energy block all the blames that we have because you think something is not moving forward. How you can move forward by steps that you can take in becoming a better. In concentrating better and focusing better. So. To begin with if you don’t know who I am my name is Liza Boubari and by trade am a clinical hypnotherapist and stress management consultant. Working with the mind and the body so what a hypnotherapist does his works with you it’s like a therapy by more com Austin treated on tapping and working with your subconscious mind which I believe is the real powerhouse. So what is. Concentration what is it that when we focus on something what is it that happens you know when you want to do something let’s say. There’s few things that must be in place for us to. Have a. Do something to come about. And come to fruition or something to happen. Let’s say you once. Let me give you an example. If I went to move my office and I once certain office I have to know what is it but I want. What are my needs how big of a space I need what kind of a feeling I want to create in my office and of course budgeting and everything. Once you know what you want and. Then you can move forward. Towards it. And. When you believe this what ever it is. That what you think and added plus a belief system creates a very concentrated focus used start focusing on exactly what you wind and because you believe this to be good for you it makes it happen. Let’s say a client comes in and day wind to Stop smoking okay. And. If they want to stop smoking. My first thing is what is it that you want. And they say I want to quit smoking. Why. Why do you believe that this is good for you because in life. What. Things that become reality are the things we believe in. You know. It’s a a lot of ways that we can do this is. Understanding. If someone wants to quit smoking or stop smoking because of their held. Unless they are scared that their their health is in jeopardy. A usually smokers. Have a very good reason to smoke because it relaxes them. It makes them feel good and helps them go to the bathroom. It gives them a a time to break or it’s already such a habitual thing. That. They realize I can’t do without it but then the moment they decide to stop smoking. Okay not quit smoking because as if dolls. We are not we are trained and not to be quitters so when we decide to small stop smoking and you believe that becoming a non smoker. Is better for you. That it becomes healthier for you. That’s when it’s so much easier to stop. Even. Folks who. Let’s say when to get married and the other person can’t stand the smoke or there is a child and the child says don’t hug me I kept stand the smell those are such a valid reasons because it touches emotions. In when it touches the emotions it’s not only the conscious spot. But the emotional connection to what it is that viewpoint and when you believe this is Beth her for you got belief system. Is what makes it a reality. So. Focused can only occur when you have said yes to the opinion that one option and. Not to all other options. Show you can’t be saying but I can smoke only. In the mornings but not in the afternoons and in the afternoons if something triggers and you pick up a cigarette and you say you know why. It’s okay I won’t smoke. Tomorrow morning so this yo yo. Aspect the same thing for for way wait people who do this your your diet and constantly lose weight gain weight – lose weight – gain weight is because deeply. Their focus is not what is it that I want to be this is the life system this is the way I want to live my life from the this day forward. And that’s how they move forward. So in other words elimination. Is. Prerequisite. For focus. And you know Tim Ferris used to say something and what you don’t do. Determines what you can do. Again what you don’t do. Determines what you can do. So. What can you do to focus on the things that matter and ignored the things. That don’t. First. Know what it is that you want. Multi-tasking. Even when you are multitasking and some people say you know I can do ten things at the same time. Let me give you an example. Yesterday last night I’m sitting at home working. And my mom said I will leave you alone I will not be interrupting you but she was in the other room. The TV was on. The phone rings she picks up the phone she talks to her friend and. As she comes to the kitchen back and for few times and then. She lingers into the room and she says you know I was talking to so and so and I’m like I know I heard. I heard everything. So she’s wondering how is it that I hear. Because just like hypnosis. Just when you think. What hypnosis is that when you go into that la la steak or you that you were asleep that’s not the point. When you were in hypnosis is exactly. What was happening. You are concentrated on one thing but you are aware of so many other things. Although you’re not paying attention to them. You hear it you know it you sense it is someone were to open the door even if you are working on the computer even if you have the for you have is sensory that something is happening and you can even sense it, feel it, know it here it may be not concentrate on what happened. Unless you are doing something like a video game that you’re not hearing anything in your end zone in a war zone. That’s different. But. We are so much more aware. than We think we are. So multitasking forces. Your brain to switch your focus. Back and forth. And just like driving a car. Putting lipstick on listening to the radio or talking. On the phone even if it is on Bluetooth. While you’re doing all that and you are driving getting to a stop sign and stopping. Even though you’re doing everything automatically. Which I like to call it and remind everyone that slide being entrance stake zone stake hypnotic state. That’s exactly what it is. And then the moment someone breaks in front of you when you break he go like this. That moment of impact of your break not kidding but breaking. It brings everything to reality and you’re just like oh yuk. And then you either get upset at the person. Or you realize you just came back to full conscious awareness. Right there right that moment and then the phone. The lipstick nothing matters except that moment that you become so. Clear and aware. So. Even though you were multitasking. At a moment of impact you become aware. That’s exactly what happens. When. You want something when you focus on it. And then you believe this to be true. Then you can just let it be and then it. Does happen law of attraction brings it. But if you. Have no destination. What it is that you want and what you want. Are not believing that it is good for you. Then that’s when the yo-yo happens. So most people don’t have trouble focusing at all. They have trouble with deciding. What to focus on. And what I mean is that. Healthy humans. Have a brain that is capable of focusing. And we get distracted. So how do we. How do you. Come to fool. Ca increased awareness and you become more present and focused here. Eliminate distractions. So if I am in the room I should have close the door. So I’m concentrated more on when I’m doing. Eliminate distractions. Okay number two. Reduce multitasking. Number three. Create a to do list what are the things you need to do. Because in a way. The most people happy to do list to go shopping for groceries and of course some people by more than and the to do list. But how to do list. Of habit to do list for your day. And. Another one is. Be mindful. Practice mindfulness. Practice sitting and visualizing this is what I want. And when it feels good bank it in. I talk about banking get in all the time. And then choose to focus. On the moment which is being present. Literally be present. And choose to focus. In intervals. So. When I’m here with you. I’m so present even though I can hear the cars I can hear the music in the background if someone were to. Open opened the door I will know and yet it doesn’t matter. My priority is you. Does that make sense. My priorities being present with you. Unless there’s an emergency that I would say excuse me I have to go. Again. The next one. Is. Take short breaks. You know there is this a method called Pomodoro Method which is a time blocking. Technique. So it says that. Compartmentalize your tasks and every twenty five minute in twenty five minutes so within the hour due to twenty five minute twenty five minute twenty five minute. And you can do this. Twenty five minutes. And then you take a five minute break and then you. Do your work for another twenty five minutes and you take a break. Actually he had reminded me like a movie. Right when you do when you are watching a movie you realize that. They go into segments and then there is a commercial break. Or when there is news it’s after a while I don’t know exactly how many minutes there is a two minute and to twenty a. Two minute and twenty seconds or two minute and break. So everything is like in intervals. You can create that for yourself for a better focus. To train your brain. It’s practice practice focusing. One of the things that it’s absolutely wonderful to focus whatever it is then you’re looking at. You turn around and you look above it. For about twenty seconds or seventeen seconds and then you come back to what your task is. So you shift. Your eyes only you look far. Above where you are doing and then you bring your focus bank at. Connecting with nature. It helps you focus. My tree. My nature. Going on a walk going on a pathway , right? Do you agree? That helps you focus and be present with mother earth with nature with all elements. That there is and you feel grounded. So that in itself. In homes this sense of belonging. Being pressing and focusing. And then. All you have to do. Is take nice deep breaths. Center yourself. As I say. Breathe in breathe out. And. Be. So grateful. Gratefulness. Every morning when you wake up the first thing before you even get out of your bed. If you can just be grateful it’s another way of focusing on something. That is good it’s powerful and it’s about the you. Be grateful to your body every essence of your body. Being grateful that hopefully. No matter where you are you have a roof over your head. The people. That you care for. Even your pets or children. Your colleagues doesn’t matter. The ones who you care for. That in itself start your day. With such a powerful focused attention. And then you can even write it if you want. Right five. Things that you were grateful and given what was. What was good about yesterday. And what is it that you have a task for today. That’s your to do list. It just sets the tone of weary of where am I. What do I feel what do I want and what do I want to accomplish. And at the end of the night. As you were about to go to sleep. Say three things that. Was a win. Just be aware of your winds of the day or you can even say those were my three challenging things of the day and here are my three wins. And with that. You say thank you. You know prayer. Is of such a powerful thing. Many Pray in different ways. We can call it thoughtfulness. Mindfulness prayer. Meditation. Doing their mantras. What it is. Everyone has a way the say it. But he had on oh means the same thing. When we concentrate and we focus. On the things that we believe. Yeah. That’s when it happens and that’s where magic happens that’s where things become reality. So here’s my challenge to you. For the next two weeks. Perhaps for Thanksgiving. Right down to the things you want. To create. And by Thanksgiving. Which is next week. Or even. At the end of the year he can turn around the say for the next. Month and a half. This is what I want to focus on. Maybe it’s focusing on right now. Or what is it that I want to create. And I believe this will help me either physically mentally emotionally personally or professionally. This is when I want. For me. For my family. For my well-being. Because I want my life to be better. And I want to enhance who I am. You know why because you do matter. You do. And that is my message for today. And I want you to know. That next week. Actually this week not next week where am I today is the fifteenth this week is the great American smoke out and if you know of someone. Who is ready to become a nonsmoker. By all means. Give me a call. It doesn’t take. More than four sessions for me most people. It doesn’t take more than four sessions to do and. The hypnosis and through hypnotherapy you can become a nonsmoker. If you believe that is what you mind if you are ready to become a nonsmoker. I can help you. My name is Liza worry. And I wish you all the best. Get in touch with me. I’m here for you. God bless you. And may the universal light surround you. Bye.