Teen Anxiety Helped Through Hypnotherapy

Greetings, greetings, greetings, greetings.
Welcome to Heal Talk Tuesday.
It’s so good to be here with you, isn’t it?
How are you doing?
You know, it’s amazing to be right here with you and we take so much in life.
We’re going to dive into a subject and a topic
that has been weighing heavily on so many
families, especially lately.
And it’s about teens and anxiety.
So that’s what I’m going to be talking about today.
And if it is you or someone you know who
has a team at their house by all means, this
is a topic that I would like you to share with me, talk with me, DM me.
I’m here for you.
So I want to start by sharing a story.
So the story is one of my clients, Mary, has always been proud of her son, Tadeh.
And a bright 16 year old.
And I want to remind you one thing.
Names have been changed to protect my clients.
So I am giving just a name out of the air.
So this 16 year old bright boy, he was referred to me through social media.
16 year old with a quick with love for soccer,
gregarious, doing a lot of activities socially apt and a social being, right?
But over the past year something had changed.
And he was being more withdrawn, gained some
weight, spending more time in his room with
headphones and just staring at his phone and
going through social media for hours and hours and gaming over five hours.
So his mom chalked it up to, it’s a teenage stuff.
And until she started noticing something, one
evening after reminding him to put his stuff
away and that they’ve got guests, he went into an outburst.
He snapped, he started shouting, bang the
doors and to a point that he kicked the door
to a point that literally put a hole in it.
Her mom shocked, could not believe it.
So she stands in front of him and I want to also share, she’s a single mom.
So not knowing what to do because he’s also
bigger and taller than her, she starts screaming
back to a point that she stormed out, she walked out and called a neighbor.
So she was very heartbroken and to a point
that later that night she sat outside in his
door listening to muffled sobs that he was crying.
He was crying and begging for forgiveness and saying, I’m sorry, I didn’t understand
what I was doing.
She wanted to go in and hold him and ask what was wrong but she was scared.
She was scared for herself, not knowing what can happen.
Now this story, we think that is something that happened in a movie.
Because she came to me, when she was referred to
me, when we got on the phone, she was literally
sobbing and her voice was trembling.
She couldn’t help but wonder where did her happy confidence son go?
How did this self doubt, this anxiety, this anger, where did all this come?
Because being almost 17 years old is just like where did all this happen?
Because it was not because of COVID, because COVID was what?
Four years ago, three years ago.
When she was referred to me, as I said, she was fumbling, she didn’t know what to do.
He had refused to help prior to that.
This is what happened.
She came to me about three weeks ago with him.
He sat here, hands folded.
And after she walked out of the room, we talked and just talked.
And I said this is only a consultation.
Then he agreed to do a session.
Just one, he said, I only want one session.
This is where hypnosis becomes a very powerful tool.
Hypnosis becomes this bridge between the
surface behavior and the deeper struggles that he was going through.
And I can say that that one session turned into one, two, three.
We just had our fourth session yesterday.
So first and foremost, I created a safe space for him.
And as you know, as a clinical hypnotherapist,
I’ve been practicing for 24 years.
And I love to work with teens because first and foremost, I am separated from parents.
Parents want to do certain things and I know moms and sons.
They don’t over their sons.
I created a safe space for him that he felt calm.
He felt non-judgmental.
And I wasn’t a peasy.
His behavior.
So first and foremost, understanding, moms,
understand that you truly have to let them know
you love them, but the behavior is not acceptable. Okay.
So that’s what we did.
Through our sessions, we did this rewiring of the negative beliefs that he was having.
Like through hypnosis, we gently accessed the
subconscious, which is the emotional part of it,
that it’s like the programming, worried
happened, how it happened, and where I’m not good enough.
And I don’t have to be perfect.
He lost two games in soccer.
It destroyed him because this image of him
being the hunk and also the best athlete, it was he felt he didn’t play good enough.
Plus a girl that was dating, broke off.
So, do you understand?
I am the king and then suddenly I am told I’m not the one.
It’s very subtle and yet it can make a huge impact in teams.
Do you agree with this?
If you agree, you can just, if you agree, if you have ever felt it, maybe when you
were young or maybe you have a child, a teenager at home.
So do you understand what he did?
He went to his friends, unfortunately, the
wrong friends and he picked up something that
to calm him, to relax him so that he forgets.
So, in the last seven months, apparently, he
had been smoking and doing a little bit of
a drugs and you know, it’s okay to do experimental
experimental stuff, but unfortunately,
experimental became his daily thing and vaping the wrong things.
I’m not here to judge.
His mom didn’t have any idea what he was
going through and it was affecting his mental
being where he went into self-enjudgment
because he knew he said it, but I’m a good boy.
A good boy, yes, but just because he’s doing
that doesn’t mean he did bad and he’s a bad boy.
Actions, what he did, he was self-medicating and self punishing himself.
So hypnosis teaches teens and gives tools for
them to manage, manage their anxiety, manage their behavior, giving them tools.
He found that through listening to the audio
recording, he can be as calm as putting that vape in his mouth.
Plus, I was teaching him that every time you
put something that orally, you are shutting down expressing.
Isn’t that better for you to express?
Because by second session, he was already
expressing what was deeply inside his hurt, his pain.
Being dumped, it’s as if the king can never be dumped.
Well, I shared with him that there are so
many kings in countries that have been dumped,
have been dethroned and even coming from our
country, Iran, it’s like, do you realize that
there are so much, there is so much, that you are just starting life.
That isn’t it better for you to have the
tools right here, right now, and strengthen.
Me, his self-esteem.
One of the things, it’s amazing, although I’m an expert in women’s wellness and young
girls, I talk about women, girls, or emotions.
We forget how much voice or as much sensitive
and holding that sensitive and not expressing their feelings.
They just stuff it in a whole different way.
And when they get angry, yes, they become more masculine, hitting, banging, breaking.
Maybe girls do it in a whole different way, women express it in a different way, but
it doesn’t mean that he’s got that anger and can never go away.
So through hypnosis and working with the subconscious
for him to understand where the triggers.
Came, because he didn’t realize that this
entire thing happened a year and a half ago,
and his mom saw the behavior changed, and she
thought it was only nine months, maybe a year.
It started a year and a half ago.
So it was when he was in junior high.
It’s amazing.
We don’t realize how subtle our behaviors change.
And I remember when I was a teenager, my tantrums were in a whole different way.
I love cars.
And I know for me, sitting in my car and
speeding and wanting to race others, and I always
had my race, my power cars.
I mean, literally, the first year I got a car, my dad, bless his soul.
He thought he gave me the strongest car, the safest car.
And it was this best Camaro that he gave me, and that Camaro at that time.
I had a Camaro when I was 17 years old, right after I got my driver’s license.
The first, within two days, I got into an
accident, then I went up and down the curves.
I had tantrums that I could only speed it away.
I thought, if I can go fast enough, I can break it.
I can break through this.
And my car became my safety zone and my ego sync.
So yes, teenagers, you have this ego, the king,
the queen, the princes, the prince, right?
So if you are like Mary and standing outside
your sons or even your daughters, they were
wondering how you couldn’t reach them, know that definitely there is hope.
There’s best to take care of it right here right now.
And love, but not a piece.
Hypnosis can be this bridge that helps your
teen move from feeling overwhelmed to feeling
confident, knowing that they can get out of this isolation.
I invite you to explore how this transformation
tool can help your teens because working
with the subconscious mind is like really going
deep in there faster than any talk therapy.
It’s better to do therapy than having all the meds that also suppress the emotions.
They numb the emotions.
I believe medications have a role.
I’m not here to say, “meds are not good.
It’s not my place.”
But what if they can express their feelings
that they don’t even understand in a more loving
space, in a more positive space, and faster than years and years of therapy?
So that is what I wanted to say because when
a mom walks in here, in tears, and the son
comes standing like this and walks out of the
door saying, “Thank you,” and giving me a hug.
That is the difference between one session and in four sessions, thriving.
We have three brains.
We have the mental brain, the emotional
brain, the gut brain, and things that your gut
feels, and I talk to them, “What does your gut say?”
What does your tummy say?
Because if a child is having tantrums and doing the vaping constantly and in their
wrong feeling isolated is giving you a message.
When there is a tantrum of hitting and anger
tantrums, maybe you cannot handle it, but
it doesn’t mean that we need to call the cops.
Before you do that, there’s other ways.
I am honored that I can help this beautiful soul, and he’s seeing the transitions.
For years, I have worked with teenagers and children
with internal fears, internal angers, and tantrums.
By all means, I believe I have shared that
many years ago, I had a mom that came over here
and the child wanted to do suspension, and
she didn’t even understand what suspension is.
In few sessions, he realized that this is not the ritualistic way.
I want you to understand, after so many
years of doing the work that I am doing, I am
not here to judge, and nothing is here to surprise me.
If I don’t know how to handle it, by all means,
I’ve got connections, I have other experts that I reach out to, or I refer to.
I have a pool of psychiatrists and psychologists
and other experts that I do talk with.
By all means, I start with hearing them,
creating a safe space for them, and treating
that child as a little human, not a baby, and
definitely not the king, but they think they are.
So if this message resonates with you, if there is anything I
can help you, or your team, give me a call, DM me, message me.
Most of the time, up to 12 o’clock, I do
respond to DM’s, and I am here because I believe
in helping wellness in a more holistic and spiritual way.
I heal myself through hypnotherapy.
If I can numb my gums and not have surgery, I mean not have anesthetics for doing gum
surgery, oral surgery, and root canals, there are other ways
to numb the pain, and yet heal the emotions and the tantrums.
So that was the talk for today.
We have so many stories, so many testimonials,
and if you want to get in touch with me,
by all means, say yes, if you agree to this,
if you understand this, if you want to share it, I’m here for you.
I look forward to speaking with you and being
of assistance, and it would be my honor to work with your loved ones.
Today is, oh my god, and of January, and with everything that is happening, you have
the right and the say in your health and wellness.
So until next week, I bid you goodbye and God
bless you, made a universal light surround
you always, and know that you’re always protected
from above and grounded on Mother Earth.
See you next week.